By Polina Pallieraki,
I imagine that you have heard several times the common phrase that each person is unique and special and we cannot be 100% alike, from the way we dress, we behave to our deepest inner characteristics. Every day, whether we want to or not, we come into contact with various personalities who suit us or not. However, since we are by nature social beings, it is necessary to communicate our thoughts, knowledge, and opinions to others in different environments in our lives (school, work, family, etc.). For some people, this communication seems easy enough, but for others, it can be more difficult.
There are benefits of being an extrovert as well as an introvert. But if people tend to be introverted, it can be challenging to make their voices heard, especially in their work environment.
“Trying to communicate in a way that does not work for you can be awkward,” says Michael Alcée, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist. “Confidence begins with being in tune with who you are.” And to find that alignment, it is very important to embrace your introverted traits, especially in an extroverted office. “The advantage of being an introvert is that you balance the culture of “thinking out loud” with a calm energy that contributes to processing and decision-making,” adds Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, Ph.D., author of The Introverted Leader: Building On Your Quiet Strength.
Alcée and Kahnweiler agree that expressing emotions can be stressful for introverts, however, there is some advice that may help them use their voice in a way that works best for them.
Write down your ideas first
Introverts tend to process everything and Alcee says it is supportive to write down any thoughts they have before a meeting. This way, they will clarify their ideas so they will feel way more comfortable presenting them to others. “Recording helps you work from the inside out,” Alcee says. He also emphasizes that it is critical to do what works for you in a teamwork environment. “We have the illusion that we live in an extroverted society, where we have to think out loud,” he points out. “Do not feel like you have to keep up with the fast pace of the office.” Take time to process your thoughts and then make a substantive contribution.
Protect your alone time
As long as introverted people tend to think or overthink more, it is beneficial to leave time in the day to allow their thoughts to clear and regain their focus. “Some of us think better alone first and then with the group,” Alcée points out. “When you are naturally introverted, finding time is imperative.” By finding this time, you will feel more ready to speak when you are with others or even in a one-on-one meeting with your manager. “This time is preparation time,” he says. “Acquiring the confidence to express oneself depends on this preparation”.
Be open in your communication
There is no shame in being a quieter person, so there’s no reason not to make that clear upfront. For this reason, Kahnweiler recommends to people share with their colleagues that they are introverts. “Explain what the desired communication style is to your partners,” he says. “Expression can become less painful”. Kahnweiler notes that joining a conversation can be intimidating at first, so letting the whole group know you are an introvert, will help you feel more comfortable. They will facilitate your adjustment. And after all, do not be afraid to take the step. “Others need your ideas and input,” he adds.
References
- Eσωστρέφεια vs εξωστρέφεια. psychology.gr. Available here
- Eίσαι εσωστρεφής; Μάθε πώς να εκφράζεσαι στη δουλειά αποτελεσματικά. thriveglobal.gr. Available here
- It’s okay to be an introvert in the workplace. LinkedIn.com. Available here
